Things go wrong in life.

We are in constant conversation looking for feedback in our choices, thoughts, and feelings. When you have lived a life full of pain, any little moment of something going wrong feels like a mistake. This is where the belief pops up in our mind that: “it just not be meant to be.”

Life will always have obstacles that you will need to overcome. Healthy minds understand that obstacles are just obstacles and don’t define our destiny. 

When you have a past full of unhealed pain or trauma, the perceptions are going to be skewed and the truth of the situation will be harder to see. In pain, we often look for excuses, and our beliefs come forward to bring relief to our experience. This is why we say: Relief is not the definition of happiness. Relief is relief.  

Relief is not the definition of happiness.

The universe doesn’t tell you or give you “yes” or “no” answers. It merely reflects choices and gives you opportunities to check in and make sure that you feel confident in your steps and are taking aligned action in the pursuit of your goals. 

While we love looking for signs and confirmation in our path, it should never become the reason or the “why” that you are making a choice. You always want to make your decisions in strength, that is how you build confidence within yourself.

Signs are not meant to be your decisions.

People confuse signs with making decisions. If that were the case, then humans would cease to have free will. We can’t blame outwardly for things not going the way we want them to go. We need to check in with our soul and not let our perceptions and fears steer us away from taking ownership in our life. 

You aren’t able to step in the right direction of your life if you are incapable of making a decision. You can’t avoid the choice. 

When you are looking at signs, it should inspire you to think one way or another on your own opinion. If you are asking signs to define your choices, it will be the same as flipping a coin and allowing your destiny to be defined by a 50% change of “yes” or “no.” That is not real confidence or free will. 

Your perceptions of signs are influenced by your beliefs. If you constantly live in self doubt and always seeking outside validation in your choices and feelings, chances are you are not experiencing happiness or destiny.

When we are constantly looking outwardly for all of these signs, we aren’t able to truly answer the question of what we really want in life. It is okay to make a choice not knowing all of the details or how it will all go. It is okay to not be entirely sure and still make the choice.

Receiving a sign from the universe is a connection, not a person in charge of your life.  

Signs should be your cheerleaders, not your leaders.

We hope this podcast inspires you to start looking for confirmation, and not decisions. Life happens, expect to overcome obstacles… ESPECIALLY when it comes to following your dreams. 

We are rooting for you, we love you, and we are always here for you!