We all want to feel special.
We talk about the show Catfish and how it documents the stories of people who fall in love with people for years but have never actually met in person. They have invested so much time in relationships hoping and dreaming on “the words” they hear.
People are great storytellers. They are great at telling you who they are. They are also good at showing you who they are, but you have to be willing to see it.
Love makes us do crazy things and logically we understand but our emotions take over and we get desperate to believe what we hear.
With love it pulls out the most desperate parts of our souls. There is a part of us that wants to believe we are the exception to the rule.
You will feel special with someone who shows you who they are and treats you well.
You get “catfished” in person as well. They tell you all kinds of great ideas of what they think you want to hear about them. The are taking who you are and manipulating you and robbing you of time.
Let someone demonstrate who they are.
How they are with you will demonstrate their true intentions with you and values. When the words and actions need to match.
Beautiful words are amazing. But until there are supporting action, they are just beautiful words. You cannot make plans on beautiful words. People can say they want to do things all the time. It is a great idea. When a person takes actions, then you can trust.
Trust is built on actions. Safety is built on actions. So enjoy the beautiful words in the moment, build a future on demonstrated actions.
If you are in a relationship it is the same, we want to be demonstrating everyday our love and commitment to each other. If you just have words but rarely actions, you aren’t seeing who they really are.
You want to be open and give each person an opportunity to demonstrate how they are. Don’t assume positive or negative traits, let them show you.
“Words are beautiful, you make choices on demonstrated actions.”
What can you do to listen better to actions AND words in your relationships?
Let us know in the comments 🙂