We tend to give love how we want to receive it.
We each have a unique way of how we want to give and receive love. The people in our lives also have their own way to give and receive love. In order to feel the love that is being given to you, you will need to understand how the other person operates.
When you are in a relationship, you can have communication around the way you need them to express love and in return you can change the way you show you love the way that the other person needs it.
There is a quiz called: The 5 Love Languages
There are five different categories that you get scored in. Sometimes your language can change along with your relationships, healing, life phase, etc..
Words of Affirmation
These are reminders of love, love notes, constant communication around feelings and thoughts. You really value the thoughtfulness and intention behind how the person is feeling towards you. You may not require lots of time and attention, as long as you can hear the words that bring you warmth and safety.
This does not mean that you are a selfish person, and it isn’t just about the value of the gift. The act of someone taking the time to show their thoughtfulness through giving you something that you can treasure and keep. Perhaps this could be flowers, a fancy dinner date, or even a cup of coffee to warm your day. You tend to see someone’s true intentions through their gifts to you.
Acts of Service
You receive love by how someone helps you in person. When someone goes above and beyond and goes the extra mile to bring some ease into your life, this is when your heart lights up. You know how much someone cares by the actions over the words they give. Rather than going out to a fancy restaurant, you value someone taking the time to plan and cook your favorite meal.
You crave undivided time attention with your loved one. You don’t care what you are doing, as long as you are with the other person. You love to feel heard and let someone show you how much they care by prioritizing and dedicating their focus into you. This doesn’t necessarily mean quantity of time, but the value in time truly spent together when you are both lost in the moment and truly present with one another.
You truly value the communication that requires no words. You connect to love through holding hands, cuddling on the couch, a warm hug. You will find love through how someone holds you and cherishes you. If this is your language, it is important to have an open line of non-verbal communication and have a strong connection in this area with your partner. When you are watching a movie – hold hands. When you are talking – have your body language open and engaged. When you are crying – have your partner hold your face in their hands. You will feel love through a loving embrace.
In order to tell someone how to love you, you have to know who you are and what you need first.
We want you to explore yourself in love so that you can effectively communicate your desires with your partner. In most cases, we are looking for who we are in our partner, you will never find yourself there. Going into a relationship with the expectation that the other person will show you who you are will always result in heartbreak.
Take the time to get to know yourself, then take the time to get to know your partner. This may require you to change the way you communicate or express your love, but you will have the confidence that it is what your partner needs to feel loved.
There shouldn’t be any surprises or expectations when it comes to finding your true match. Leave that drama for the hollywood screens. We are here to guide you to find true and everlasting love… your true match.
We hope you enjoyed today’s episode! Let us know in the comments, what is your love language!
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